image courtesy of online psychology degree
I think I was in middle school when we found the magazine… though I can’t say for sure. My age I can’t remember, but the photos are forever impressed upon my mind.
There was an empty cul-de-sac down the street, and a lot of teenagers hung out there. We’d occasionally find evidence of their visits: cigarettes and used condoms on the ground, stashes of beer in the woods — I suppose the usual for rebellious high-schoolers.
We were a relatively innocent group of kids. We had no desire to smoke what was left of the discarded cigarettes. I didn’t even know what the condoms were — except that they were involved in the mysterious act of sex. And the cans of beer, they were promptly shaken up and shot with pellet guns, the explosions of froth entertaining our group of 12 and 13-year olds.
But the magazine was different. We saved it. And looked at it. On several occasions.
I don’t know how you first came to look at pornography. But my assumption — if you are a guy — is that you have. I also assume you still look at it from time to time. At least that’s what the statistics say, regardless of whether you’re a Christian or not.
The internet has made looking at pornography easy.
But it’s our desire to keep this sin a secret that has allowed it to flourish.
I’m going to post a bunch of links here, and I hope they’ll prove helpful to someone. But before I do, I want to humbly offer my greatest single piece of advice:
Don’t seek merely to rid your life of pornography. But seek God, and next to him your wife. The solution is not in running away from this sin, but in running towards a greater power and a deeper love. It’s only in seeking God that our evil desires can be remedied. Only in holding firm to him can we stop grasping at lesser idols.
Sex Isn’t Selling (because it’s free)
How Do I Know If I’m Addicted to Pornography — A Test (not that any amount of porn is beneficial)
Sexual Addiction Test (not just pornography)
Sexual Recovery (deals with all sorts of sexual sins and getting help)
XXX Church (probably the best source for Christian help with pornography)
Accountability Software (from XXX Church — I use this program)